Steps to Planning a Destination Wedding
By Lisa Light, Wedding Planner   518.392.7766

Wedding planning should be treated like any other significant project project. That means you need a plan. The plan begins with a budget, a guest list and a schedule.

The following is a detailed planning schedule that Lisa Light developed for her upcoming book on how to plan a wedding anywhere in the world. Although it can be used to plan any wedding it is really geared toward planning a destination wedding, which differs a bit from planning a wedding near home. You have more issues to think about like travel arrangements, marriage laws, and working with people you have never heard of before when you are dealing with a far-away destination.

Also, when you are planning a destination wedding, you do not have the luxury of having multiple meetings. If your wedding is really far away, you will want to try to do all of the hands-on planning and face-to-face meetings during one long planning trip and then plan to arrive several days ahead of the wedding to confirm everything face-to-face. The advantage is that the planning meetings are not dragged out over time, the disadvantage is that you have to make sure you fit everything that you need to see, hear, touch, smell and taste into the planning trip since that cannot really be done over the internet.   Hence, the planning trip is very important and should not be rushed. You need to take the time to really research the locations and the people you will want to meet with before you go, then set up the meetings, confirm them and then go on the trip with your mission in hand. Know the questions you need to ask, what you need to see, feel, taste and hear, what you need to measure and take lots of pictures of everything to help jog your memory later when you are trying to finalize details. You may have to plan a week to do this and you should not think of the trip as a vacation….you will most likely have a meeting every minute of the day or you will be checking out restaurants or looking for neat decorations or favor ideas.

You will want to take the list below and customize it by taking out line items that do not pertain to your plan and adding others that might. Then you assign the date it should be done by and the person in charge. If you become totally overwhelmed, call a destination wedding planner that can help you get through it. If you would like a digital copy of the planning schedule below you can call 518.392.7766 or email lisalight@destinationbride.com.

Bio: The editor wants the info on the fact that this is an excerpt from the book I am writing for them.
Lisa Light is an international wedding planner located in Chatham, NY. To read more about her and the services they provide, go to www.destinationbride.com. The following planning schedule is an excerpt from a book she is writing about how to plan a wedding anywhere in the world. The book will be released in late 2005 by North Light Books, an imprint of F+W Publications, Inc.


You can edit down if you want…..not sure what can be cut without sacrificing flow and comprehension. I would like to see the final copy before you post it. Thanks so much!
STEPS    TASK    PERSON     COMPLETE √
            
    PHASE 1: READY, SET, GO        
            
    12 MONTHS BEFORE…Get  Organized        
    Organize Your Binder and Digital Files        
    Set Up a Planning Schedule        
    Purchase Wedding Insurance        
    Put Together Your Guest List        
    Empower Yourself with a Budget        
    Set Up a Service Provider Sheet        
    Enlist a Wedding Planner and/or Travel Consultant        
            
    PHASE 2: WHEN AND WHERE IN THE WORLD        
            
    11 MONTHS BEFORE…The Destinations        
    Profile Your Destination        
    Research Wedding Destinations and Locations        
    Verify Legality in both Church and State        
    Decide on a Date        
    Research Travel and Accommodation Options and Rates        
    Check for Travel Advisories        
    Get Family Approval         
    Research and Select Honeymoon Destination        
    Decide Whether or Not You Need to Take a Planning Trip         
            
    PHASE 3: THE PLANNING        
            
    10 MONTHS BEFORE…The Planning Trip        
    Reassess Your Need for Assistance        
    Make Travel Arrangements for the Planning Trip        
    Figure Out Your Mission – Make a plan        
    Research Possible Service Providers        
    Qualify Service Providers (check references)        
    Set Up Meetings with the Service Providers         
    Confirm Meetings with the Service Providers and Locations        
    Pack for the Planning Trip        
    A Planning You Will Go        
    Tour Reception Locations and Meet with Banquet Managers        
    Decide on a Reception Location        
    Taste the Reception Food and Work Out the Menu        
    Interview Local Wedding Coordinators        
    Meet with Officiates Both Civil and Religious and Select        
    Decide Between Civil and/or Religious Wedding        
    Decide Where the Ceremony Will Take Place        
    Meet with Your Officiate and Work Out Ceremony Details        
    Figure Out Who Will Help You with the License        
    Find Out Where You Will File Your License.        
    Visit Guest Accommodation Options: Hotels,Villas, Resorts, etc        
    Interview and Select a Pastry Chef to Provide the Cake        
    Check Out and Select Music Options        
    Check Out Salons and Stylists by Having Trials Done        
    Interview Photographers        
    Interview Videographers        
    See What Kind of Wedding Transportation You Can Hire        
    Research Favor/Welcome Gift Ideas and Resources        
    Explore Artisan and Fabric Shops and Markets for Design Resources        
    Find Out if There are Any Rental Companies        
    Browse Through Jewelry Stores for Wedding Rings        
    Try Different Restaurants for Rehearsal Dinner or Welcome Party        
    Research Other Activities for Guests        
    Decide on the Rest of the Itinerary        
    Find a Tour and/or Transportation Company for Ground Transport        
    Talk to Banks About Opening a Bank Account and Get One If You Wish        
    Think About Where You Would Like to Honeymoon        
            
    9 MONTHS BEFORE…Contracts        
    Reassess (Wo)man Power        
    Contract All Service Providers and Send Deposits        
    Start Getting Your Legal and Religious Documents in Order        
    Make All Travel Arrangements        
    Book All Accommodations        
    Finalize the Tour and Activity Itinerary        
    Book Ground Transportation        
    Purchase Travel and Wedding Insurance        
    Start Writing a Detailed Order of Events        
            
    8 MONTHS BEFORE…Begin Design and Guest Communication         
    Register for Gifts        
    Decide on Wedding Style/Theme/Colors        
    Set Up Planning Website or Write First Info Letter        
    Design, Print, Send Out Save-the-Dates and Info if Necessary        
    Start Designing or Purchase Stationary: Invites, Programs, Seating, Menus, Thank Yous        
    Find and book a Calligrapher        
            
    7 MONTHS BEFORE….Fashion        
    Select/Order Bride’s Gown        
    Buy Bride’s Accessories: Shoes, Head Piece, Jewelry, Makeup, Perfume        
    Select Bridesmaid Gowns, Measure Them, Order Gowns        
    Select and Order Groom’s Tuxedo/Suit        
    Buy Groom’s Accessories: Tie, Jewelry, Perfume, Shoes        
    Select Groomsmen Tuxedos, Measure and Order        
    Buy the Trousseau and Honeymoon Wardrobe        
    Find and Order Wedding Rings        
            
    6 MONTHS BEFORE…Design Details and Updates        
NOTE    Final Deadline to Order Traditional Bridal Salon Wedding Gown if You Have Not Already Done It        
    Finalize Menu(s)        
    Finalize Cake        
    Choose Flowers and Decor        
    Send Pictures to Florist/Decorator        
    Get a Floral Estimate        
    Work on the Details of Your Ceremony        
    Purchase Ceremonial Items        
    Select Music and Entertainment        
    Consider Special Effects        
    Hire Your Wedding Transportation        
            
    5 MONTHS BEFORE…Gifts        
NOTE    Deadline to Order Tuxedos and Bridesmaid Gowns        
    Purchase Your Wedding Gift to Your Betrothed        
    Order Your Welcome Gifts        
    Order Your Favors        
    Buy Bridal Party Gifts        
    Consider Your Service Providers        
            
    4 MONTHS BEFORE…Invitations etc.        
NOTE    Honeymoon Deadline if You Have Not Already Booked It        
    Finish Stationary Design or Order Invitations        
    Address and Send Invitations        
    RSVP Coordination        
            
    3 MONTHS…Updates and Welcome Letter        
    Review Hotel Contracts and Release Any Unnecessary Rooms        
    Update Website and Send Out Final Update Letter        
    Write Welcome Letter/Order Maps and Brochures        
            
    2 MONTHS BEFORE… Responses and Marriage License        
    RSVP DATE        
    Release Unreserved Hotel Rooms        
    Finalize the Marriage License        
            
    PHASE 4: CONFIRMATION        
            
    1 MONTH BEFORE…Final Orders        
    Floor and Seating Plans        
    Final Team Meeting        
    Final Order of Events        
    Final Updates        
            
    3 WEEKS BEFORE…Confirmations        
    Send Confirmations to the Service Providers        
    Update Your Service Provider Sheet        
    Confirm Travel        
    Organize Your Final Payments        
            
    1 WEEK BEFORE…Pack        
    Pack for the Wedding Trip        
            
    3 WEEKS BEFORE…Departure and Vis a Vis Confirmations        
    Departure        
    Drop Off Your Gown to be Steamed        
    Meet with Your Team in Person        
    Face to Face Confirmations        
    Assemble and Deliver Welcome Packages        
    Pick Up Your Gown and Tuxedos        
            
    1 DAY BEFORE GUESTS ARRIVE…Beauty        
    Get Massage, Facial, Nails done        
    Relax        
    Music Selections        
    Decide on Cake Design and Send Photo        
    Updates:  Website, Guest Update, Order of Events, Budget, Payments        
            
    5 MONTHS BEFORE…Gifts        
NOTE    Final Deadline to Order Tuxedos if you have not already done it.        
    Decide on and Order Gifts        
    Wedding Gift for Your Betrothed        
    Welcome Gifts        
    Favors        
    Bridal Party Gifts        
    Parent Gifts        
    Service Provider Gifts        
            
    4 MONTHS…Invitations etc        
NOTE    Honeymoon Booking Deadline if you have not already done it.        
    Finish Stationary Design or Order Stationary        
    Stationary Designs Go to the Printer        
    Stationary Arrives and Invitations are Delivered to the Calligrapher        
    Invitations are Addressed and Sent        
            
    3 MONTHS…Updates and Welcome Letters        
    Updates: Website, Guest Update, Order of Events, Budget, Payments        
    Review Hotel Contracts and Release Rooms as Needed        
    Write Welcome Letter / Itinerary        
    Order Tourism Brochures and Maps for the Welcome Packages        
            
    2 MONTHS…Responses and Marriage License        
    RSVP Date         
    Call Guests Whom Have Not Responded        
    Start Plugging in Seating as People RSVP        
    Review Hotel Contracts and Release Rooms As Needed        
    Finalize Marriage License        
            
    PHASE 4: CONFIRMATION        
            
    1 MONTH BEFORE…Final Orders        
    Release Final Un-necessary Hotel Rooms        
    Final Meeting with Coordinators and Banquet Manager in Person or Via Phone        
    Finalize all documents: Order of Events, Budget, Vendor List        
    Confirm Travel Reservations and Seating        
            
    3 WEEKS BEFORE…Confirmation Emails/Faxes        
    Send Confirmation Emails/Faxes Along with Order of Events & Final Numbers to All Service Providers        
    Organize Final Payments and Pay Any Due Before the Event        
    Start Packing        
            
    1 WEEK BEFORE…Packing        
    Finish Packing        
            
    PHASE 5: COORDINATION        
            
    3-5 DAYS BEFORE…Departure and Vis a Vis Confirmations        
    Arrive at the Wedding Destination        
    Meet with the Banquet Manager and Wedding Coordinator        
    Meet with All of the Service Providers        
    Assemble and Deliver the Welcome Packages        
    Get Nails Done, Massage, Facial etc…        
    Get Your Gown/Tux Steamed        
    Pick Up Tuxedos if Necessary        
            
    1 DAY BEFORE GUESTS ARRIVE…Preserve Your Sanity        
    TOTALLY RELAX        

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Article is copyright July 30, 2004 By Lisa Light any use must include her byline and link along with credit to Afwpi.com